Arguably, the most difficult of the Ten Commandments to keep, is the last one, “don`t desire the house of your friend…or anything which belongs to your friend”. To put it briefly, so much of society is based on the idea that if my friend has the latest gadget, I must have it too. If people in your peer group, have a particular type of house, or car, or anything else, it is very easy to be self-conscious about not having it, and in fact to be envious of the other person. Although the precise prohibition, in the Ten Commandments, is not to desire the actual item your friend has, we are told elsewhere, unambiguously, of the evils of envy and jealousy. How do we avoid it?
Certainly, if in the deepest recesses of our hearts, we felt that material possessions are not so important, and other things, like happiness, and being a good Jew , are more important, that would remove a major cause of envy. Another route to the solution would be, to develop a genuine concern for the happiness, and success, of our friends, then we would be so pleased by their successes, that there would not be room for envy.
Unquestionably, it is a topic which merits serious thought and discussion. I would welcome any input to the discussion.
Question For the Week;
In the laws about Shabbos, it says, (Chap. 20 Verse 10) “ you shall not do any work, you and your son and your daughter” . Why does it mention your son and your daughter? If they are adults, the prohibition “You” is addressed to them anyway; if they are children, we are obliged to train our children to keep all the Mitzvos, but it does not say, “ Your son and your daughter” with any of the others?
If a father, knowingly and deliberately, causes his child to break Shabbos, that is like breaking it deliberately and knowingly himself, and is equal to idol worship. It is therefore much more serious than causing your child to do another sin.
SOURCES; Sefer Zichron Moshe, quoting Rav Chaim Soloveitchik.